Question by Tanqueray:
how to tell a family member they can’t come over because they had bedbugs?
I have a cousin who wants to take me out and come over. she’s not the cleanest person so i’m comfortable . NYC is having a bad case of bedbugs right now so i want to be careful. my cousin has 2 kids , her youngest has a bladder problem no fault of his own but when he pees in the bed he just throws a towel over it. mind you he’s 14 or 15 yrs old. one time she found out he peed in the bed at the same time she was getting ready to eat, do you know she finished eating and watching her favorite program while sitting on the piss bed before changing the sheets. she sat there for an hour before doing anything. now i have my days where i leave my bed unmade or a few dishes in the sink but what she does is nasty and she wants to come over . what do i do? she’s taking me to a free concert
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Answer by T Brown
There is a Quebec business who will cook the inside of your house to 140 degrees and it kills all of the bugs, invite your cousin to be there when they do the baking.
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EWWWWWWWW lol I would make some excuse for her to not be able to come in your house. Tell her you will meet here somewhere because your house is being exterminated (hint hint to her lol) or because your carpets are being cleaned or some reason like that lol it will be easiest if you pretend that even you can’t be in your house right now, otherwise she might say “it’s okay, I don’t mind” and wanna come in anyways or something lol good luck, that’s a sticky situation but I would so not let her in my house!!!
Oh my!
That’s a hard one. It looks like you’ll have to hurt their feelings or just keep lying for the rest of your life and make up excuses why you can’t hang out.
But moving forward, don’t solve problems. Prevent problems. Every family has black sheep. Don’t associate yourself with them and you won’t have to worry about getting rid of them. That goes for friends to. The human heart will naturally love anyone it’s around for a period of time. Don’t let that happen to you. Now you’re stuck with these undesirables that you love but since you’re not filthy you can’t be around them. Tisk Tisk Tisk.
I guess it depends how close you want to be with her friend-wise. I really really hate being dishonest with people, but I know you don’t want to hurt her feelings. Don’t go to a concert with her just because it is free. Make up an excuse why you can’t go. If you do want to be close with her, then you have to level with her and lovingly tell her what your concerns are–specifically. I assume it is just her, not her kid coming over, but if you do this, you know that it will lead to more get-togethers. She is probably in need of a friend if wants to pay for your ticket and come over, etc. So, look inside yourself. Do you want to continue a long and possibly meaningful friendship, (and maybe even help her someday with her son who has this problem, which must be the worst thing in the world to him), or cut the cord now, and not commit yourself by taking anything from her.
maybe come up with a reason to have to meet her in a restaurant or at the concert…