Question by Hanniyah came early Oct 12th!:
My mom has bedbugs and Im bout to have a baby!!!!?
hello everybody, my story or should i say question might sound a little overly obsessive but its tearing me apart. Ok I used to live with my m mom a couple months ago and we had bedbugs really bad do to a family member that visited a couple times and didn’t let us know he had them. Anyways the infestation was very bad and it was a HORRIBLE experience and living condition, but in Jan me and my boyfriend moved out and we took ever precaution to make sure we didn’t bring them with us. we kept ever thing new we bought for our house at someone else and we only took our clothes out the house and washed them the day we moved. Now to my surprise I found out I will be expecting my first baby in october which is wonderful, the only problem is i can’t stop worrying about me not wanting my mom any where near my home or my baby DUE to the bugs and I don’t want to go over there either. also I have tried several times to stress to her she needs to exterminate she won’t budge so I give up but.they wont be in my home. i love my mom but I developed a phobia I believe about them bugs help please. my child would be her first grandchild me????
for all those that have comments like i dont love my mom or whatever let met tell u something come to me when u live through that situation cause i did and anybody that has knows how horrifying it can be. i think i would rather have mice then them
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Answer by SocialistMartyr
It’s great that you are having an illegitimate child?
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Oh yeah what a nice mum. Sarcastic-ism. Ummm.. make up excuses to keep her away.
maybe tell her that… that you dont want to put your baby at risk, and that you wont feel comfortable with your baby going there untill it has been taken care of..
Oh no! How awful! Sounds disgusting. I think your mother exterminating is a very small price to pay for the privilege of spending time with her grandchild! Stay firm and make her get rid of them. I don’t think you’re being overly obsessive at all, and if it’s possible for her to bring them into your home, then unfortunately she will have to stay away if she refuses to get rid of them! Congratulations on your pregnancy! Good luck! x
It is your baby and you have every right to protect s/he from what you think may harm her. Does your mom know you are pregnant? If you havent told her, tell her first. After the surprise wares off of for her, then sit down and have another talk with her about these bugs. Tell her you wont let your baby in her house and you wont let her in your house because of the bed bugs. If she wants to see her grandbaby, she will need to have her home exterminated for the safety of the child. Explain that you want her to have a relationship with your baby but you also want to keep your baby safe and it has nothing to do with her personally. I hope everything works out for you.
maybe you could send an exterminate over to her house for her.. offer to pay for it..
Print her out some info about how bad bed bugs can be for everyone..
Stand your ground and she deals with this once and for all
I wouldn’t have her around my baby either. My sister moved into a new house and the people before her had bed bugs and they got them. It took months of treatment to get rid of them. It wasca nightmare for her. I didn’t visit her house but for a few minutes at a time and I wouldn’t let my kids spend the night there or let her kid spend the night here. She understood. She was actually very concerned about other people getting them because of her. It wasn’t long till they were cleared of bed bugs and all was fine.
But she also spent like $ 1000 for treatments and had to have ppl come in with bug sprays and treat her house every month for several months. Her daughter was 7 at the time and shecwas concerned about her being exposed to the chemicals to kill the bugs.
Considering you are having a baby, I would be firm about it. You don’t want little bugs crawling all over your baby and biting your baby. And imagine how worried you would be having to expose your baby to all the chemicals they have to use to treat your house if you got them.
Bed bugs are no joke. They are a nightmare. I would do whatever it takes to avoid them. And if my mom or whoever had them and wouldn’t treat for them and get rid of them, I would avoid her too. Sorry, but she should want to not live with bugs crawling all over her. That’s creepy.
First of all i know what it’s like to have a problem with bedbugs, you are completely right in your decision, every mother has a natural instinct to protect their child and that is exactly what you are doing.. I had bedbugs when my daughter was a couple of months old.. it was a living nightmare.. i’m still so scared and paranoid they will come back.. If i had the chance to prevent this happening to us i would have trust me!!
The best thing you can do is tell your mum to get this sorted, its selfish of her not to, she could pass it on to her neighbors.. maybe if she finds out that not taking action will stop her having the contact with her grandchild it might make her reliase how serious this is… if its a money problem she could try talking to her landlord, sometimes they have a legal obligation to take care of pests…if she still doesnt then what can you do? nothing. your baby is the most important thing and you shouldnt feel guilty protecting them… also there is a great website you could visit for support on bedbugs, it helped me out alot its called bedbugger.com..there is forums and stuff there will pest control officers who give great advice
i wish you all the luck in the world and dont listen to the other comments.. unless you had bedbugs you simply wont understand!
That would be horrible to have bedbugs so I can see why you don’t want them coming to your new home especially with a new baby on the way! I really think your mother needs to get rid of the bugs for her own health as well as everyone else that comes in contact with her… Why wont she get them exterminated? Is it because she doesn’t have the money, if so then maybe you could help her out a little like pay for half or something… If she wont do it just because then she really needs to reconsider. I would just be straight up with her and if she doesn’t understand then there isn’t much you can do unless you want to risk bringing the bugs home with you. Good luck and congratulations!
tell her that she cant see u or the baby or anything cuz of the bugs